Somewhere along the way, silence became a problem to be solved. Sitting alone at a party? Someone must come to your rescue. Not participating in a group activity? Clearly, you need encouragement. Quietly enjoying your own space? Oh no, we can’t have that. Because in a world that glorifies constant interaction, stillness is mistaken for loneliness, and solitude is seen as a cry for help.

As an introvert, I’ve spent years dodging well-meaning but relentless attempts to make me more social, as if my natural state is something to be fixed. At social gatherings (the ones I can’t avoid, anyway), I’m perfectly happy sitting in a corner, observing, or simply existing without feeling the need to contribute to the collective noise. But that’s rarely an option. Someone always thinks they’re doing me a favor by dragging me into a conversation, a party game, or—worst of all—to the dance floor. Because in their mind, I can’t possibly be enjoying myself if I’m not talking, moving, or otherwise proving my engagement.

It’s exhausting. And frankly, it’s time for a perspective shift.

This blog post isn’t about how introverts can “come out of their shells.” It’s not another list of ways we can learn to navigate a world that never stops talking. We have enough of those already. No, this is for the extroverts—the ones who thrive on energy, who can’t stand silence, who equate stillness with boredom, and who feel the need to fill every moment with noise.

Let’s flip the script. What if, instead of pushing introverts to be louder, extroverts learned to be quieter? What if you discovered that peace exists beyond constant conversation? That silence doesn’t need to be awkward, and not everyone is desperate to be included?

This is your guide to embracing the lost art of silence and, more importantly, learning when to just let introverts be.

No, We’re Not Broken: Myths About Introverts

For some reason, introversion is often treated like an unfortunate condition—something that needs to be fixed, managed, or overcome.

“You should speak up more!”

“You just need to get out more...”
“You’d have more fun if you joined in!” 

“You just need to come out of your shell!”

These are the well-meaning but utterly exhausting phrases introverts hear all the time.

So, let’s set the record straight. Here are some of the most persistent myths about introverts—debunked, once and for all.

1. Introverts are just shy.

No, introversion and shyness are not the same thing. Shyness is about fear of social judgment, while introversion is about energy. An introvert can be completely comfortable speaking in front of a crowd and still want to go home afterward and sit in silence for three hours.

2. Introverts don’t like people.

We like people. We just don’t like all people, all the time, in all settings. There’s a difference. Introverts value deep, meaningful connections, but the idea of filling every silence with small talk is pure torture.

3. Introverts don’t have fun.

Just because we don’t express excitement the same way extroverts do doesn’t mean we’re not enjoying ourselves. We don’t need to scream, jump, or dance to confirm that we’re having a good time. Sometimes, the best kind of fun is sitting in a quiet café, reading a book, or having a one-on-one conversation that doesn’t involve yelling over loud music.

4. Introverts are bad at socializing.

Introverts can be great at socializing. They just do it differently. Instead of bouncing from one person to another, they prefer quality over quantity—fewer interactions, but deeper ones. Also, they don’t believe in talking just for the sake of talking. Silence is perfectly fine, and no, it’s not awkward.

5. Introverts need to ‘come out of their shell.’

This is probably the most frustrating myth of them all. There is no “shell.” This is our personality. An introvert sitting quietly in a group isn’t waiting to be “saved” from themselves. They’re just… fine. Imagine that.

6. Introverts don’t like attention.

Not necessarily true. Some introverts love being in the spotlight—on their own terms. Many actors, musicians, and public speakers are introverts. The difference is, they need time to recharge afterward, whereas extroverts might thrive on the attention and seek more of it.

7. Introverts can’t be friends with extroverts.

Introverts and extroverts can be great friends—as long as there’s mutual respect. The key is understanding that introverts don’t always want to hang out, and that’s not a sign of disinterest. Sometimes, silence is just our way of being present. Almost all of my close friends are extroverts - they understand that I'd rather just observe than participate.

8. Introverts are always quiet.

Oh, we can be very loud—when we actually have something to say. Give an introvert a topic they’re passionate about, put them with the right people, or just catch them in the right mood, and they’ll talk your ear off. The difference? We don’t feel the need to fill silence. If there’s nothing important to say, we’re perfectly happy just existing in the moment.

Now that we’ve cleared up some misconceptions, let’s move on to the real challenge—helping extroverts embrace quiet and resist the urge to fix what isn’t broken.

Silence Isn’t Awkward—You Just Don’t Know What to Do With It

Let’s talk about silence. That vast, terrifying void where no one is talking, no music is playing, and—heaven forbid—no one is performing social energy exchanges every five seconds.

For some people, silence is peaceful. For others, it’s an unbearable abyss that must be filled with noise, chatter, or the first random thought that pops into their head (“So, uh… crazy weather, huh?”). If you fall into the second category, I have news for you: silence is not the enemy. You’ve just never learned how to sit with it.

Think about it. When was the last time you sat with someone in comfortable silence? No checking your phone, no feeling the urge to fill the gap, no background noise—just existing in the same space without pressure. If that idea makes you itch, then congratulations, you’ve just found your next personal growth challenge.

The truth is... silence only feels awkward if you believe it should be. But it doesn’t have to be. It’s just another form of communication—one that introverts are fluent in. Sometimes, the best moments aren’t the ones crammed with endless words, but the ones where you can just be.

Now, if you’re wondering, “Okay, but what am I supposed to do with silence?”—don’t worry, we’re getting there. Up next: a few practical tips on how to embrace quiet, respect introverts’ space, and maybe, just maybe, discover the joys of shutting up every once in a while.

How To Be Quiet (Without Exploding):

So, you’ve made it this far. You now know that introverts aren’t secretly miserable in silence, and you’ve accepted that not every moment needs to be filled with words. Great progress! But what now? How do you actually do quiet? How do you resist the overwhelming urge to fill every silence, drag introverts into activities, or—let’s be honest—just keep talking?

Don’t worry. I got you. Here are some practical ways to embrace quiet and, in turn, become the kind of extrovert that introverts actually enjoy being around.

1. Learn to sit with silence.

I know, I know. Silence feels weird at first. But instead of rushing to fill it, try sitting with it. Let a conversation pause without scrambling for a follow-up question. This maybe a perfect time to 'reflect' internally. Trust me, it won’t kill you.

2. Stop assuming quiet = uncomfortable.

If an introvert is sitting alone, they’re not silently begging you to rescue them. If a conversation has a lull, it doesn’t mean the vibe is ruined. If you let go of the idea that silence is awkward, you’ll realize it’s actually… peaceful.

3. Don’t force social activities on introverts.

Look, we get it—you love a good party game, group activity, or spontaneous karaoke session. Good for you. But if an introvert is clearly not interested, let them be. Stop with the “Come on, just try it!” If they wanted to, they would.

4. Lower your volume.

This one is simple. Just… talk a little softer. Not every conversation requires maximum enthusiasm, vocal projection, and hand gestures that could knock over a drink. Sometimes, a calm, normal-toned conversation is enough.

5. Respect the “Irish Exit.”

You know that moment when an introvert just disappears from the party without saying goodbye? That’s called an Irish Exit. And no, it’s not rude—it’s survival. If they’ve had enough socializing for the day, respect it. No dramatic “Where are you going?!” Just let them slip away in peace.

6. Be mindful of personal space.

Some extroverts love physical touch—hugs, shoulder pats, leaning in close. Introverts? Not always. Before you invade an introvert’s bubble, read the room. If they stiffen up when you go in for a hug, maybe… don’t.

7. Give introverts time to warm up.

Introverts don’t always jump into conversations with the same energy as extroverts. Instead of bombarding them with questions or expecting instant engagement, let them ease into it. The more comfortable they feel, the more likely they are to actually want to interact.

8. Accept that “No” is a complete sentence.

If an introvert declines an invitation, don’t push. Don’t guilt-trip. Don’t launch into “But why not? It’ll be so much fun!” Just accept the answer and move on. They’ll appreciate you for it.

9. Text first. Always.

Before calling, or video calling, or just showing up, send a text. Give the introvert a chance to mentally prepare. Unannounced social interaction is a crime against introverts, punishable by days (or even months) of avoidance.

10. Try doing something quiet for a change.

Instead of planning yet another loud, high-energy gathering, try a low-key activity—reading in the same room, watching a movie without constant commentary, or just taking a quiet walk. You might be surprised how much you enjoy it.

At the end of the day, this isn’t about changing who you are. It’s just about recognizing that not everyone thrives in constant noise and interaction. Respecting introverts’ need for quiet isn’t just about making them comfortable—it’s also a chance for you to experience a different kind of peace.

So, take a deep breath. Embrace the silence. And maybe, just maybe, learn to enjoy the sound of nothing.

If you are into the K-Drama or Asian Drama scene, I think you have heard of this series already. It has the audience on tenterhooks ever since it dropped on Netflix. When the Phone Rings is a suspenseful series that keeps viewers on the edge of their seats with its mysterious plot line and characters that have depth. The series blends psychological thriller elements with a lot of family drama, though not without a few missteps in its narrative and execution.



The drama starts with an unexpected phone call that changes the lives of the characters, triggering a chain of events that lead them to uncover secrets, confront their pasts, and face their deepest fears. Chae Soo-bin as Hong Hee-joo is central to the unravelling of the mystery, delivering a captivating performance as a woman caught in a dangerous web of lies, conspiracy and their consequences. The premise initially intrigues the audience with the strong mysterious Baek Sa-eon and gentle and emotional Hong Hee-joo. 

However, while the show keeps you guessing, there are a few moments where the story feels convoluted, particularly in the later episodes, where plot twists may appear forced or less cohesive. Some unresolved threads left viewers wondering about the show’s intended message, making it harder to fully connect with the story by the end.

While the show starts strong, the plot eventually begins to stumble in certain areas. Several key moments appear too convenient or lack conviction, especially regarding character reactions. There are instances where Yoo Yeon-seok’s Baek Sa-eon seem surprisingly oblivious to what’s going on around him. Some of their decisions often feel out of place or unrealistic, making them appear too “dumb” to notice or understand what’s happening. This undermines the suspense and weakens the overall narrative.

The performances of the cast are undoubtedly one of the drama’s strongest points. Chae Soo-bin’s portrayal of Hong Hee-joo is gripping, capturing the internal struggles of her character with depth and subtlety. Yoo Yeon-seok as Baek Sa-eon delivers a nuanced performance, bringing complexity to his character’s journey of self-discovery and guilt. Heo Nam-Joon shines as Ji Sang-woo, offering moments of camaraderie and strength that resonate with viewers. Jang Gyu-ri as Na Yu-ri and Han Jae-Yi as Hong In-a both bring in some stability among all the volatile characters around them and with standout performances that add layers to the story. The chemistry between the cast, particularly between Chae Soo-bin and Yoo Yeon-seok, is palpable, making their complex relationship dynamic one of the most compelling aspects of the drama.

So, tell me, did you folks enjoy the show?

When Oxford announced manifest as its Word of the Year, it made sense. Manifesting has become a movement, a buzzword, a practice people swear by to bring their desires to life. Everywhere I looked, there were books, posts and ads on how to manifest what you want in life. It’s a beautiful idea—the act of turning thoughts into reality, creating the life you want through intention and action.

But here’s the thing: to manifest, you first need a vision. And to have a vision, you need a dream.

I started 2025 with 4 words/advice from 2 of my favourite artists -

- Dream: Well, that is what this post all about; my word of the year. So read on...

Dreams are like the seeds, the starting point where the life you imagine begins to take shape. Without a dream, the act of manifesting is like trying to build a house without a foundation. And so, as I start this new year looking forward to a little bit more of healing, growth, and rediscovery, I’ve decided to go back to the very beginning and make dream my Word of the Year.

Reclaiming the Word ‘Dream’

Whether it is due to the trajectory of my own life or the society around us, my ability to dream was suffocated by an atmosphere of suppression, manipulation and gaslighting. Whether it was the general attitude of people or very directed projections of people, {some of you might be able to relate to it} but trying to live up to the expectations and the image of a 'good girl/woman' was very suffocating. Somebody else always took the priority - their expectations and needs always came first because a good girl always puts others first. 

Dreams were dangerous in that world—either dismissed as foolish or selfish. Survival took precedence over imagination and by the time I realised that I had hit the rock bottom, I realised it was because I was never anyone's priority and that hypocrisy finally taught me to put myself first. Now, having stepped into relative freedom, I realize how crucial dreaming is. It’s not just about imagining a better future; it’s about reclaiming the right to hope, to desire, and to create a different life for myself.

Dreaming is my way of rewriting the narrative that once kept me small. It’s a declaration that I am no longer living in the shadow of someone else’s story.

A Year of Dreams

This year, my focus is on nurturing my ability to dream, starting with small steps:

1. Dream - Healing

Every dream I allow myself is an act of defiance against the years I was told to put it on hold or that I couldn’t. Dreaming is a way to heal the wounds of doubt and fear, replacing them with hope and possibility.

2. Dream - Rediscovery

- What does freedom look like for me?
- What do I truly want?
- What do I actually love?
- How much am I actually capable of?
Dreaming is my way of exploring these questions and learning to embrace my desires unapologetically.

3. Dream - Freedom

Freedom, like happiness is relative. I still have responsibilities that I can not ignore and limited resources. So, there are still some boundaries. But how can I use the freedom that I have? How far can I really go? But I can Dream and I do have the freedom to choose how to live my life - what responsibilities I truly want and what resources I want to use.

What My Dreams Look Like Now

Dreams don’t have to be grand to matter. For me, they are about building a life that feels authentic, fulfilling, and whole. Little things that makes choosing happiness everyday everyday. Right now, they look like:

• Becoming healthy in both body and mind. 
• Waking up every morning with a sense of purpose.
• Growing my career in a way that aligns with my values.
  
•         Finding out what it is that I genuinely enjoy.
• Surrounding myself with people who genuinely support and uplift me.
•         Leaving behind people who only add negativity and unrealistic expectations.
• Continue traveling to places I’ve only ever seen in pictures.
• Writing my story—and no I don't mean on pen and paper, but to own it and honor my journey.

An Invitation to Dream

If manifesting is about bringing your dreams to life, then dreaming is the foundation where it all begins. If you’ve ever felt like dreaming wasn’t for you—whether out of fear, doubt, or survival—I understand. But I also know that reclaiming the ability to dream is transformative.

This year, I invite you to join me in making dream your focus. Let it inspire you to imagine the life you want, to rediscover your hopes, and to plant the seeds of possibility.

Because no matter how much time you’ve lost, it’s never too late to dream again—and to let those dreams take flight.

Tarot reading is an ancient divination practice that involves using a deck of cards to gain insight into various aspects of life, including relationships, career, and personal growth. While memorizing the meanings of each card can be beneficial in tarot reading, it is not the only path to mastery. In fact, relying solely on memorization may limit your ability to tap into the intuitive and transformative aspects of tarot.

Learning tarot without solely depending on memorization allows you to develop a deeper connection with the cards and cultivate your intuition. By exploring alternative approaches, you can uncover unique interpretations and insights that may not be found in traditional guidebooks.

While understanding the traditional meanings associated with each card can serve as a helpful foundation, tarot reading is a dynamic and personal practice that involves interpretation and storytelling. It's about using the imagery, symbols, and energies of the cards to create a narrative that resonates with both the cards themselves and the individual you are reading for.


By embracing a more intuitive approach, you can tap into the wisdom and guidance that arises from within yourself and the cards. This method encourages you to trust your instincts, listen to your inner voice, and allow the cards to speak to you in their own unique language.


In this way, tarot reading becomes a collaborative process between you, the cards, and the person seeking a reading. It is a practice that invites you to be present, open-minded, and receptive to the messages and insights that emerge through the reading.


Here are some tips for learning tarot without relying on memorization:

• Develop your intuition: Tarot reading is not just about interpreting the meanings of the cards, but also about tapping into your intuition and inner wisdom. Spend time meditating or doing other practices that help you connect with your intuition.
  
  
• Look at the images: Tarot cards are filled with symbolism and imagery that can provide clues to their meanings. Spend time studying the images on the cards and noticing what they convey to you.
  
  
• Practice reading for others: The best way to learn tarot is by practicing with real people. Offer free readings to friends and family members and see what insights come through for them.
  
  
• Use prompts: Rather than relying on memorized meanings, use prompts to help guide your readings. For example, you might ask yourself, "What does this card tell me about the person's current situation?" or "How can this card offer guidance for the person's next steps?"
  
  
• Trust your instincts: Ultimately, tarot reading is about trusting your instincts and allowing the cards to guide you. Don't worry too much about getting everything "right." Instead, focus on being present with the person you are reading for and allowing the cards to reveal insights and guidance.
  
  

While memorization can certainly be helpful, it is not the sole path to becoming a skilled tarot reader. Embrace your intuition, explore the imagery, and allow the cards to guide you on a transformative journey of self-discovery and connection with others.

If you are someone like me who finds much of their comfort and motivation from books and music, then this post will be of help to you.

For those of you who do not know who Min Yoongi is, let me introduce you to SUGA of BTS. Whether you have heard their songs or not, I am sure you have heard of BTS, the South Korean boy band that is taking over the world (I kid you not!). SUGA is Min Yoongi’s stage name as a part of BTS. He is a rapper, lyricist, composer and music producer. He is probably most widely known as SUGA because of the popularity of BTS and as SUGA he has co-written and co-produced many of BTS’s songs. Aside from that, SUGA also produces music for other artists. Eight by IU, That That by Psy, and Wine by Suran are some of his award winning songs as a producer. He also uses the name Agust D for his solo projects.

Min Yoongi has a unique way of blending raw honesty with soothing melodies. Both as SUGA or as Agust D, his music often resonates deeply, especially during life's tough phases. If you’ve ever in need of a comforting companion through the rough patches that we all have to face in life, his songs might just be that warm blanket you need!

Here are the 10 songs by Min Yoongi that brought me much comfort:

10. Song Request; by Lee Sora ft. SUGA

This is a quintessential break up song by Lee Sora, that features SUGA as a writer and rapper. It is a sentimental song with a slow sweet melody that suits the mood of a person who has broken up with someone but yet to completely let go. SUGA has one verse in it but that one verse is enough to comfort you because in typical SUGA style, his verse is like a direct conversation with you - the listener.

“When you’re intoxicated with memories

And bring someone up

You can watch the music video here: {For K-drama lovers - the MV features actor Byeon Woo-Seok of the recent Lovely Runner fame in a scene.}

9. So Far Away ft. Suran; Agust D Mixtape

Have you ever had days that suddenly hit you with certain realisations? There you are hustling to pay the bills and make a good living, and all of a sudden you realise that you no longer remember the dream that you were working towards? Or maybe, remember the days when you were passionate about something but now you don’t even remember why? And it disorients you a bit? Well, on days like that, listen to this song.

Until the end of your life

Dream, wherever you might be

It will be lenient

Dream, you will fully bloom

After all the hardships

Dream, your beginnings will seem humble

8. First Love; BTS - You Never Walk Alone

Back then when I fell into a pit of despair

Even when I pushed you away

Even when I resented meeting you

You were firmly by my side

You didn't have to say anything

So don't ever let go of my hand

I won't let you go ever again either

My birth and the end of my life

You will be there to watch over it all”

7. People; D-2 Mixtape

Ever feel tired of the people around you? Ever feel ‘heavy’ because of all the judgements and expectations? Tired of colouring within the tight boundaries set for you? I do not know how to verbalise what this song means except to say it made me feel seen. You have to listen to it for yourself and tell me what you get out of this song, ‘cause I don’t have words.

“What's good is good, in the end

What's good is good

Things don’t always go as intended

Discomfort is something everyone has to withstand

The repetition of dramatic situations can make your life exhausting”

6. People Pt.2 ft. IU; D-Day Studio Album

Another song that really looks a deeper look into people and their experiences in life. I would like to invite you to choose the sweetest thing about this song and your choices are - Yoongi’s lyrics, IU’s vocals & the black Labrador in the MV. The first thing that really ‘got’ me in this song is probably not my favourite part of this song (hint: my favourite part is Yoongi’s vocals in this) - the opening lines sung by IU. I would really like to know what those lines mean to you, dear reader.

“Selflessness can actually be selfish, too, it's true

It's actually my greed when I say that it’s all for you

Will I be happy if I give up my greed

A half-illusion that can never be fulfilled”

Experience this song through the MV & good luck:

5. Trivia 轉: Seesaw; BTS - Proof

Another solo song of SUGA in BTS’s discography, Seesaw is really what had me spiralling and paying attention to Yoongi & his lyrics. I have written a whole separate post on about Seesaw here, so I’ll keep it short - if you have been through the push and pull in any kind of relationship in your life - you must listen through this one.

“People can be so conniving

We know someone gets hurt if the other is gone

But neither of us want to be the bad guy

In the midst of a series of vague responsibilities, umm-umm

We became so sick of each other that we finally became parallel

Ay, although this wasn't the kind of parallel that I wanted"

4. Dear My Friend ft. Kim Jong Wan; D-2 Mixtape

Ever lost someone close to you in your life? Have you ever felt somehow responsible how things turned out in that person’s life? Have you ever wondered if YOU could have done something to change what happened? Have you felt certain other negative feelings because of that ‘was I somehow responsible’? Have you wondered how it would be today if that person was still your life? If you have, I dare you to listen to this song when you are on your own and not cry! The pain & regret in the song came through to me even before I looked up the lyrics.

“Was it you who changed? Or was it me? Uh

I hate this flowing time, it's us who changed

Hey, I hate you, hey, I don't like you

Hey, even as I say these words, I miss you”

3. Life Goes On; D-Day Studio Album

The contrast between BTS/SUGA and August D is always very stark, but none so in your face like this song. That is because BTS has a song of same title, and Yoongi has used his lines from that in this version (I do not know which version was written first). While BTS version of ‘Life Goes On’ is much happier, positive and hopeful - which is what BTS does for their ARMYs (unless the rapline has some scores to settle 😝) - August D gives you a reality check but leave you with some hope without you realising it.

“I know, I know this place right now

A place that will soon become a memory

Don't be afraid until the end of my life

Because life will go on forever”

2. Amygdala; D-Day Studio Album

The MV comes with a trigger warning & the song should too. The song is deeply personal and the MV is very visual. The title ‘Amygdala’ itself is a warning because Amygdala actually of the part of the brain that stores the memories that the brain thinks you need to remember for your survival - so basically the harshest memories that you’d rather forget. So yeah, it will either trigger you or help you heal. It’s really a toss-up depending on where you are in your healing journey. Proceed with caution.

“So, is all countless suffering for my own good?

What didn't kill me only made me stronger

And I begin to bloom like a lotus flower once again"

1. Snooze ft. Ryuichi Sakamoto & Woosung; D-Day Studio Album

Yoongi wrote this song for everyone who idolize him and want to follow in his steps. It’s once again a reality check about how the path ahead of them is not going to be easy, but also provides a bit of hope through his presence and his words. You don't have to be dreaming of becoming a k-pop idol to be able to relate to it or to feel consoled. Nobody understands the power of words like Yoongi does. In this song he shows how being honest with your words can have a larger impact on people and how the repetitive (and the almost meditative way he delivers them) words can have a deeper effect (in this case a positive effect) on a person.

“Everything will be okay, Everything will be okay,

Everything will be okay, Everything will be okay,

Everything will be okay, Everything will be okay,

Everything will be okay, Everything will be okay,

Everything will be okay, Everything will be okay,

Everything will be okay, Everything will be okay,

Everything will be okay, Everything will be okay,

Everything will be okay, Everything will be okay.”

Here's my tattoo inspired by Snooze:

Like any form of art, music/songs are open to interpretation. Your interpretation is going to be different from me - depending on both personality and experience. As such, I do hope you see some of the things that I saw in these songs - but at the same time, I hope that you will see completely different things. Am I making sense?

Each of these songs serves as a reminder that we are not alone and that resilience and hope can guide us through the darkest moments. Whether you're navigating personal struggles or simply need a reminder of your own inner strength, Agust D’s words will always be there for you.